The purest part of BDSM is a Owner and my slave.
Though it is also the role within BDSM thats hardest to fulfill both from a Owner perspective and also for the slave.
In a idealistic world a slave would be free from all aspects of responsibility.
I know is this is more of a fantasy and fiction , then a posibility now a days.
A 24/7 slave has normaly her own obligasions, friends, Family and hers duties in a “Vanilla- world”.
Im sure that so many have made the mistakes of trying to fulfill and chase this “dream” of a relationship and then really crashed and burned.
If you chase a dream of a relationship most likely it would end up just as a nightmare.
The first thing I have to pinpoint is beeing a slave is not for everybody, and far from any Dominant can have a responsibility for a slave.
I would say that its acctualy a real danger for a slave giving away all the Power to a Dominant who is not concious for his role as a Owner of a slave.
This is the highest form for Dominanse, and absolutly the higest form for responsibility for me as a Owner and Domiant.
And its also the highest form for submission for a woman to be a slave ( you did read the highest) far from the lowest !
Thats the first point for me as a Domiant and Owner, owning a slave is the highest value of BDSM.
So then i would like to focus on what I se as a slaves Place.
What is a slave’s place? Where does she belong in the relationship?
The simple truth is that a slave gets all her protection and guiding from me as a Owner.
And I mean that if one is truly committed to living Owner/slave, it is crucial to understand this basic premise.
Owner/slave is all about the exchange of power. It is the fundamental part of this way of life. The power breakdown is what makes Owner/slave different from the traditional forms of relationships. In fact, with such complete exchange of power, Owner/slave differs greatly from a D/s relationship, because of the fully responsibility I have for a slave ( yes, I remember what I just wrote about the slaves Vanilla-world duties)
But when the slave is Owned all other aspects of her life is my Responsiblity. ( part from the Vanilla duties.)
I honestly believe few are cut out for Owner/slave relationship. I see many, especially online, claim to be slaves. At the same time, I see some of these same people writing blogs “informing” others what life as a slave is all about. Sadly, this is misleading since they no more qualify as slaves than I do.
At the core of the Owner/slave relationship is the total exchange of power. It is absolute, complete, and final. This is not something that is subject to interpretation. A slave gives all her power over to her Owner. Any power retained by her is granted by me the Owner. It is that simple.
Therefor it is so important to listen to the slave from the start and keep listining to the slave at all times, but at the end of the day it is my responsibility to have total Control and protect the slave in any situastion.
Why listen to a slave you might be asking ? ?
Well here is also one of the biggest difference from reality and fiction.
In reality there is no way I can take full controll of a slave without knowing her, knowing her core, her values, her way of thinking…
Therefor I listen, but I make the decisions.
When I as a Owner have heard my slaves opinion I will take the right choise for my slave.
Many would now say : “hey, you never listen to a slave”
Well in Movies and fiction they dont, in real life I do !
In the core of a slaves heart and purpose a slave is a Owners property.
Thats is not up for debate nor descutions.
Beeing a slave is to make my life full as a Owner and therefor make it easier for me as a Owner, not more difficult.
It is her place to available to him when I decides I wants her. Not only for sex, but for my enjoyment.
Do this mean that I want a slave to clean and Cook while I am watching TV ?
Hell no, this means that my slave at all times know her purpose.
I do not want my slave to be a housemaid, I want my slave to be happy and devlop more and deeper into her role.
I dont know about anybody who has developed by cleaning the dishes.
But I need a slave who is naked at my side when I tell her, I need a slave that responds to my commands, I need a slave that does her tasks at the best performance she can do, and I need a slave that is confident and are learning more about her self then in any other relationship.
One of the hardest parts With owning a slave is this is about the slave serving me, at her interest.
Read that scentence over a few times.
The hardest part for me as a owner is to protect her needs and interest.
This is the hardest part of Owning a slave.
Not for the slave, but for me as a Owner !
My choises has to be tought thru and be in the best interest for the slave to best serve me as her Owner. ( here is where I Guess over 80% fail) because if I as a Owner stops having my slaves interest at heart, I can never own a slave.
This is not about a slave’s wishes. I considers them, I make a choice. in the slaves best interest ! ( yes I know im repating myself , but this is so important for both a slave and any other Owners to read )
I am under no obligation to do what a slave wants me to do, but it is my obligation to listen to my slave ( see the difference? )
“A slave is a slave. know your Place”. I have read sometimes for many years ago somewhere….
Well I concure that actual statement, but I`ll rather say:
A slave is just as good as I as a Owner am for my slave.
Owner/slave is about service and taking the biggest responsibility as a Owner for a slave do grow and develop.
I write this with the intention of helping people open their eyes to this way of life. A true Owner will look after his slave to ensure their safety, peace and happiness.
However, there are times when I makes choices that are in direct opposition to what a slave wants. It is at this point that a slave needs to remember her place and that she is under her Owners Control and that the trust is above anything that is “normal” in a relationship.
Making good choises for a slave is the hardest part of Owning a slave.
This is for the extreme but for those who can handle it, it is the highest form of a relationship and makes both the slave and I as a Owner grow extremely close.
It may take years to reach this goal, but when you are in a Owner/slave relationship all the work to getting to the finish line is more then a journey….It is Beyond and deeper then any relationship.