The four P`s – Protector-Penelaizer-Provider-Partner


As the dominant half YOU are the primary protector. This protection is unconditional. It can be protection from stressful element in your Little’s life. This can be financial, psychological, fantasy etc. You’re the one they turn to, and you provide what few can. As their emotional safe haven and secret keeper, the intimacy of your relationship will be unlike any other. There needs to be absolute trust between each other. The damage of a broken trust in a DDLG relationship can be beyond devastating. If your Little opens up to you, never ever use it against them or manipulate them with that information. It’s borderline abuse and, to put it mildly, one of the most damaging things you could ever do. While you are disciplining your Little it’s important to keep in mind you are still their protector. Never, ever, forget that fact.






Your Little needs to learn that respect for their caregiver is of the utmost importance. It is your responsibility to teach your Little to grow and learn while maintaining respect for your role as the dominant and following your rules. These rules should always be clear and consistent and it’s important for both parties to agree to follow them. As is with any BDSM relationship, there may or may not be punishment, discipline and penalizing involved if the rules are broken. Some caregivers are strict while others prefer to take the gentler approach with chores, loss of privileges, and other non-physical punishments. In many cases the gentler approach can be far more effective since many people in BDSM relationships enjoy physical punishments. The punishment is not about giving pleasure through pain, but teaching your Little a lesson—that breaking the rules will not to be tolerated.
After punishment it is the Daddy`s job to reassure your Little once it’s time to move on that you still love them, and it’s for the relationships benefit. Once again, the type of punishments and rules is entirely dependent on the couple and circumstances surrounding the relationship, and this can vary greatly. Overall the Little should anticipate some form of discipline/punishment if they act out against the caregiver’s wishes or ‘forget the rules’.



While you protect and guide your Little through the world, it’s important to care for your Little to ensure they are healthy, happy, and cared for. This could include making sure they are eating well and have their basic needs met, like any relationship, but a caregiver will generally take this to the next level as they are responsible for their Little’s well-being. Feel free to spoil your Little if you can. As the caregiver, you will know what your Little loves and having a surprise now and then will make them feel special. These rewards or gift could be anything you like—be creative. Toys, candy, new play items (coloring books, stickers, teddies), or maybe even some quality time together. Just remember –you are a Daddy, not a sugar Daddy. Don’t get these two confused. Your job is to help them be the best they can be.You provide solutions to a problem, rather than being the solution yourself.
As a Daddy you are their everything, as they are too you. They are the sun, moon, and light of your life, so treat them as such. While your relationship may or may not be sexual, it’s important for both parties to feel loved and cared for. The DDlg dynamic is a thing of absolute beauty. You have the power to elevate a dynamic like this to unknown reaches of self-discovery, so you need to make it very clear that they are of the utmost importance to you and earn their trust. You are partners in this dynamic together. This requires endless communication, compromise and compassion. With any BDSM relationship you need to know each other’s soft and hard limits and respect them. Never penalize your Little for not wanting to compromise on a hard limit. You should both understand that while the Daddy is the dominant, the Little has their own limits. Just like with BDSM—for a good Daddy.


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