One of the toughest lessons I learned (and continue to learn) is that everything is my responsibility. I am the one who is solely responsible for the events in my life. This includes what occurs within my household. While the tendency to place blame stills exists, it is something that I work on daily. However, the one advantage is today, even when I do not want to, I know that all consequences lay at my feet.
The truth is that those who are successful at being Masters within this lifestyle are those who take responsibility.
When one owns another, the responsibility for growth and direction lies with the Owner/Master. This is something that most welcome. However, things seem to take on a different twist when they go wrong. Then, the blaming tendency starts.
A submissive is trained to be obedient. That is what a worthy submissive seeks. It is a quality that is imperative to the M/s and D/s dynamic. Of course, this is not to be mistaken for weakness. Obedience does not amount to a person being weak. On the contrary, it is actually a sign of strength.
Strength must be met with strength. If not, the relationship will fall apart. I cannot tell you the number of times I witnessed a slave ‘surpass’ the Master in ability. In short, she grew; he did not. A dominant person needs to dedicate him or herself to this growth. And, for me, it starts with owning up to what occurs.
If a submissive makes a mistake, it is up to me to correct that. By the same token, if she is lost, it is up to me to help her find her path. Whatever happens, a dominant needs to stand up and know that all is done at his directive. When things do not work out as anticipated as they invariably do, then it is my fault. And, I is the one who needs to ensure corrective action is taken. Anyone who wants to place the blame on the submissive is not worthy of being called a Owner/Master.
Be responsible and you are on the path to earning it.