What is a submissive?
What needs is essentials ?
What is my toughts on a submissive from a Dominant point of view
She need to feel safe. Before she can begin to open her submissive nature to me she need to feel safe and have reason to trust me. To let Down her walls and give me control of her will may take time and testing before she feel safe enough to permit either of us to go beyond the initial stages of our relationship. Even after she has given herself to me fully, she need to be reminded that she is safe With me. She may like to feel the thrill and excitement of fear and the unknown, but she need to be sure no matter how I stimulate those emotions during an intense scene or situation, She will remain safe in my care.
She need to know I Accept her for all she is.She need to know I Accept her as a friend, lover, companion, and my submissive.
She need to know exactly what I expect of her and know that I also understand her limits.
She need me to be consistent. She need to know I mean what I say and that today’s rules will apply to tomorrow’s behavior. Nothing confuses her more than giving her mixed signals by allowing her to break rules that I have given her.
From time to time she may test me to see if I am capable of accepting control of her life by consistently bringing me back to the path I have chosen for her.
She need to expand her limits. she need to grow and to be challenged.
She need me to teach her. She need to learn and it is I who is her teacher. Her mind is hungry for new things and learning helps her to become all that she can be. This may require me to continue to learn new things in order to keep her challenged. Together we can grow to the fullness of the gifts we have and deepen the diversity we share.
This is the circle of BDSM.
She need goals. She need them to measure her progress and need me to provide them for her. Take time to explain those goals in ways she can comprehend My plans concerning her growth as my submissive. Without my direction she quickly become lost . Therefor she will look to me frequently to provide a purpose and aim as she continiues in her development as a submissive.
She need to be corrected. She need me to correct me when she make mistakes. Without my correction she will develop bad habits that can be very difficult to break. Without my correction, she may never know she made a mistake. Allowing her to continue unchecked will only cause her to fail both of us in the end.
She need my approval and reassurance. She need to know when I approve of her or what she has done and to know she belong to me.
She need to learn from her mistakes.She need to experience things that may be painful in order to learn successfully. She know my protective nature will struggle with allowing her to be hurt but she need to learn the consequences of what she has done and to experience the feelings that go along with making mistakes. Allow her to sort out her feelings before wiping away her tears.
She need to share with me. Sharing with me is a compelling need and one of the cornerstones of a submissive nature. This includes the emotional and spiritual aspects of her being as well as the physical body she inhabit. It may be difficult for her to give You access to the deeper levels of her emotions and feelings but those are the things she need to share the most.
She need to feel loved, respected, and protected in my ownership. No matter how well she`s done or how miserably she has failed, she need to know that she is still loved and protected by me. She will grow to be all she is capable of being more than knowing me will be there to protect her from harm and will love her even if she fall short of the target. She need to be loved and to love me in return.