Appearances aren’t always as they appear. Those of us involved in this lifestyle know there is much more to it than what someone may see . This goes much deeper than the mere physical appearances of the activities we choose to bring into our relationships…much deeper. For all of us, always remember…”Relationships are much deeper and more involved than they appear”.
I think those people that peek in from the outside see a submissive as being weak. They see a woman being owned and controlled by a man (reverse the gender roles if you like), and view this as a weakness. Many people don’t think a woman should bow and cede herself to a man…or to anyone for that matter. They think she should stand on her own two feet and be able to take care of herself. She should be assertive and able to take charge of any situation. I say this is a bunch of ignorance.
I say that it takes a very strong woman to be willing and able to submit. The core person is still there and strong. She has to be strong to be able to not only comprehend her need for submission, but then be able to act upon that need. A woman must be strong mentally and emotionally to be able to give herself to someone the way a submissive woman does. There is no weakness in needing to give yourself to a Dominant. It is that deep inner strength that makes her a good submissive. Someone without that strength will have a very hard time opening up and baring herself completely. Not to mention, this strength is combined with raw determination to be able to stay the course and follow through with what she desires the most. We all know…it isn’t always easy.
Always stand strong, be proud of who you are, and don’t let anyone make you think less of yourself. Anyone that tries to bring you down is only afraid and insecure about themselves. They will belittle you and try to make you feel smaller about yourself in order to feel better about themselves. So, stand tall, smile, and be happy with nothing less than the person you are. This will enable you to become even stronger, more self-aware, and more secure with yourself. Being able to look inside and being happy with what you see is what matters most of all.
“You are stronger than you think, and I have shown you just how strong and important, and appreciated you are. Let your inner strength flow and don’t allow what anyone else says or does make you think any less of yourself. Let them look like a fool on their own with the less than desirable behavior they may exhibit. In the end, it will be they that will be seen as a lesser and weaker person. I am proud of you as a person…all that you are and can be. I am proud and honored to be able to call you mine.”