The principles

Without mutual respect a relationship is doomed for failure. This goes for vanilla and BDSM relationships.Respect each other’s roles and determination to succeed in this beautiful lifestyle.
Just a few days ago I came across a quote on Fetlife that inspired me to write this blog
The quote was :
“Nothing is more beautiful as a submissive when she is at her weakest.” I state this is 100% wrong, In my mind and my expirience in BDSM is actually totaly opposite.

Nothing is more beautiful as a submissive when she is the STRONGEST!

In my mind this BDSM is about respect and integrity No one is invulnerable, unfeeling, or unworthy of at least initial respect. Not everyone does things the same, and that’s okay, too. There’s more than one way to have impact play, to process pain, to follow thru rules and protocol, to build trust, to take care of  your submissive or simply to bring the biggest smile ever to a hard-working submissive. Be very grateful if you can master one of these ways.
Never take your partners for granted. I as a Dominant depend on my submissive, I let her lean on me as needed by my submissive,  but never forget that their presence in your life is a choise from both submissive and me as a Dominant, not as a entitlement. beacuse respect is an incalculable gift. Therefor never take your submissive or me as a Dominant for granted.
In the core values in my Company , the first Word is Excellence.
Aim at excellence. Doing the right thing means doing the best you can in whatever situation you find yourself. If you don’t have an idea of what would be the best outcome, how can you choose among your different options? Whatever your roles, whichever techniques you use, learn all you can and aim to perform at the highest level you’re capable of reaching. Superficial BDSM, like superficial sex,  it’s often not worth the effort. Good play can be casual or spontaneous, but only with a solid foundation of skill, empathy, and desire. If you don’t do the prep work, you can’t reach the highest rewards. Lots of practice won’t make you perfect, because no one is, but it will help you become the best you can be, this goes for me as a Dominant and should also be a goal for my submissive.
Treat others at least as well as yourself. The Golden Rule — “Treat others as you would like to be treated” — is a great ethical principle, but for use in BDSM, where we typically desire a distinct difference of power or status, it needs a qualification: “Treat others as you would like to be treated if you were them. With this inmind I as a Dominant can also show my submissive sympathy and empathy, cos I will state if I don`t treat my submissive as good as I where her I could never demand her to show me respect as a Dominant. I want her to get the opportunity to understand my Dominans as I understand her submission.
Principles is core in all good things we do for another person.
Because I think that to be in a healty BDSM relationship celebrate each other: Lift each other up and celebrate the small and large victories together.Because a BDSM relationship is all about bringing the core in who we are in oneanother.
Therefor I state :
Nothing is more beautiful as a submissive when she is the STRONGEST!
And I want my submissive to state the same about me:
Nothing is more beautiful as a Dominant when he is the STRONGEST!

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