The game

For me it’s fairly easy to break BDSM into two main categories. First, there are those that just like the kink and the role play, which I call kinksters. It may just be sexually or from time to time for fun or as a way to spice things up. The second is those that Domination and submission is is a deep part of who they are and something they need in their life. It transcends just play and kink and is some they need to feel complete and whole. It’s a way of life. I, without a doubt, fall into the second group. It’s a part of me and what I need to have as a part of a relationship. It’s part of who I am. There is nothing wrong with being a kinkster, so don’t get me wrong. Either is fine as long as it works for the person engaged in it. You have to find what fits and is right for you. But just for play or a role…not for me.

Whenever I see problems within this lifestyle, one way or another it seems to come back to the difference in these two categories, or at least many times it does. And when people are new to this, especially Dominants, or those claiming to be Dominants, this is the part they just don’t get…not yet anyway. This doesn’t mean they can’t learn and that most don’t want to learn, but they aren’t there yet. These Dominants jump right in when they see this and think it looks fun. They think it would be great to have a woman be at his pleasure.

Many submissive women, on the other hand, come into this with a deeper understanding initially of who they are and what they need. They have looked at this for a long time before taking steps towards this lifestyle. They know it’s a part of who they are and what they need. They have likely battled within themselves as to whether they can or really want to do this. Or whether they feel it’s even right and ok to do this. They may be very scared and vulnerable but know they need a Dominant Man in their life to be accountable to and to have oversee them.

This is the difference between the categories…one seeing it as fun and play, at least initially, while the other
sees it as a way of being and needing the depth of it. This tends to lead to a lot of potential issues that neither is aware of, prepared to face, or even knows exists. This is where I see the problems arise and where things can go so very wrong.
Most Dominants don’t start out know just how deep and what a responsibility being Dominant really can be. He doesn’t realize just how much the submissive will rely on him and need him. A majority of what she needs from him will come outside of their scenes or play. It’s before during and after the scene that she needs the care, support, and reassurance from her Dominant. The Dom has to realize that he is responsible for, and that the sub is looking for, her mental and emotional well being. He has to realize and understand that the actual play only lasts a short time, but the support and care she needs lasts throughout the entire relationship, day in and day out. The Dominant should never jeopardize the subs physical, emotional, or mental health and well being just because he wants to have fun, and have her get him off. If you aren’t prepared and expecting to deal with ALL parts of the submissive, you shouldn’t be wanting to deal with just the physical apsects. The exception to this is if both people are completely open, up front, and share their position and expectations and are in total agreement.

I am just looking at this from my own point of view, and where I am coming from as a Dominant that sees this as part of who he is. Again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with just enjoying the play aspects of BDSM, and there are many people that do. Yet, I believe it’s vitally important for those involved to be open about how they see this and what they expect from it. Is it just fund and play, or is it a dynamic within a relationship that you are seeking? If it’s the relationship, then you have to be wiling to learn, and study and give more than you may have ever given…and in this I am speaking to the Dominant. Be ready, willing, and able to care for your submissive, inside and out. If you aren’t willing to put that much time and effort into the relationship then you need to be wiling to take a step back and look at the bigger picture…the submissive’s overall mental, emotional and physical health and well being. She is putting all that in your hands, so you better be willing and able to handle all that involves.

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The boundaries

A Dominant/slave relationship isn’t something that can be described as static. While your partner may not change for years at a time, that doesn’t mean the level of your relationship has to stay the same. In fact, as you and your slave work together, it’s a good idea to push each other’s boundaries to see just how deep you can take the relationship and the power structure. As a Dominant, you want to spend some time working on pushing the boundaries of your slave in order to ensure they are continuously learning and growing in their role.
What are the Boundaries in Your Relationship?

Before you can begin pushing your slave, you need to sit down with them and talk about what the contract between you already states. This will help you both to see what you think are the boundaries, whether they need to be changed, etc. Ideally, your slave should create a list of things they want, a list of things they never want, and a list of things they eventually want to try. The things they eventually want to try is the list that will help you see what boundaries you want to push. Since the slave is not necessarily comfortable with these items right now, you will be pushing their edges and making them grow in their role as a slave. Using other commands you might use for other tasks, you can see how they perform when they aren’t sure what’s going to happen next

A New System of Dominance

Pushing boundaries can lead to a completely new system of dominance as well. For example, instead of being the domineering Dominant that barks orders, you might want to try being calmer and just more steady in the way you deliver tasks to your slave. While this might not seem like a way to push someone’s boundaries, if you change the way you act with your slave, they will not necessarily know what you are up to – which can make them more on edge than they have been in a while.
Or you might simply want to change the way you interact with your slave in a scene. You might ask for your slave’s trust as you push boundaries as you see fit, allowing them the chance to tell you to slow down or to stop if things get out of hand.
You want to push the boundaries of your slave because that’s the best way to see just how hard they can work and how much they can learn. No one wants to learn the same things again and again, so you need to make sure there’s always something new around the corner.

The need

I believe at times we all have contradictions that that run through our head. This is especially true within this lifestyle of BDSM, D/s, Ms, etc… Any of you that have followed me for any length of time know that I have written about the contradictions that lie within submission. There is the internal battle many times of what seems right versus what a submission wants, needs, or craves. It can be hard to accept these things and come to terms with our desires for these seemingly inappropriate acts and treatment. In today’s society, it can even seem very wrong to even want to submit and give power and authority over to another person, regardless of the acts that may play out. Well, I’m going to let you in on a little secret… this can be hard for me as a Dominant as well.

When I take the time to look at some of things that I enjoy about being Dominant, and the aspects of this lifestyle that I enjoy (the not so gentle or nice aspects), and compare that to what is considered socially acceptable, it can stop me in my tracks. In fact, in some circles I potentially could be clinically determined to be a sexual deviant and be need to be on the registered sexual offender list. I could be one of those people that has to carry that stigma and has everyone look at him as though I am an outcast. Why don’t we just go ahead and take me to the town square and hang me for all to see and rid our community of such atrocity.

I see scenes of seemingly rough forced sex and I like it. I see scenes of whipping and I love the pretty  stripes left across the submissives ass. I see various acts of pain inflicted and I want to do those things myself. I want to make my slave moan and scream and beg, and then make her take even more. I want to make her choke on my manhood, only to let her breathe and then do it again. I see pictures of women in of cages and think “Hmmm… I have one of those!” I think about spanking her pussy and hurting her nipples and want to subject her to it over and over. I want to give myself into her repeatedly so that it hurts her and she screams, and I won’t stop until she’s a foggy mess of a blob that can’t even function. All to exert my Dominance, fulfill our own needs, and show her how she is owned and at my mercy .

Here lies the contradiction. At the same time, I love and care for my slave. I want to go places and do things with her. I want to hold her hand. I want to spoon with her as we sleep. I want to caress and care for her. I want to gently kiss her on the forehead. I want to have her head in my lap and stroke her hair and cheek as we watch television. I want to laugh with her, and pick at each other in fun. I want to defend her when she is threatened, and throw myself in front of any danger she might face. I want to shield her from anything harm that may come her way.

How can I be this way? How can I want to hurt her in one breath and protect her from pain in another? How can I want to subject her to such apparently cruel acts, but then want to protect her ?

How? I’ll tell you how! Because it’s part of who I am as a man and a Dominant, and also what my slave needs and craves from me. It’s part of the dynamic we have together, each knowing our roles and place with the other. Each of us, in actuality, feeding off the other to be this way to meet our owns needs as well as fulfill the needs of each other. Am I like this with everyone? Absolutely not! The key to it all is consent. I have no desire to do these things with someone that does not want and need it. That doesn’t turn me on one bit. I am secure in the Dominant I am and the things I desire and need as a Dominant. For this to work for me, I need a willing partner. I need someone that wants this from me, and even pushes me to do more and go further with this side of myself. I need consent as well as a mental and emotional connection to be this way with someone. This is not about taking what I want from just anyone. It’s about being that way with and for my slave because she needs that from me, and it allows me to be able to be my true self.

I may be a walking contradiction in many ways, but I’m ok with that. I’m good with the person I am and have uncovered. I won’t lie to you, it’s not always easy, but that’s ok as well. The struggles make the triumphs worthwhile. For me, the benefits far outweigh the downsides.

The Failure

It`s been some time since I blogged, so much has been going on in my life during this summer.
And as I always stress, BDSM is part of my life and not a lifestyle , therefore I have`nt made time for blogging.
Anyhow, thanks for all mail and feedback on my blog I read all mail I recive and you also know that im replay each one of you.
The feedback from all is really highly appreciated.

I have a job and a life thats built around alot of responsibility and I have also blogged about that a Dominant crave , like and need this extra trait.
I bear not only their own personal responsibility to be of good conduct, but also culturing that sense of responsibility in my submissives and my households. Be it full-time or part-time, it would be irresponsible, and therefore immoral if were we to demand obedience to commands that would do harm to my submissives or their responsibilities (children, parents, job, etc). It is a line that must be walked between the responsibilities… of lives touched and desires. Impulse control, self restraint, and “the long term view” are marks of responsible ownership. Such responsibility cannot be “passed down” to your submissive and absolve the dominant of responsibility either.

Yes, you have your responsibilities…and so do I.

Therefor everyday life can and most likely will intervene With a BDSM lifestyle and the other way around.

As a Dominant, I am responsible for doing all I can to foster a healthy relationship. The submissive must do all they can as well. It is shared…no one is excused.

BDSM is togetherness , BDSM is us, never me, BDSM is two who finding there singel needs melt togheter in a common hope for building something strong and lasting and finding common ground to built something.
I have sadly so often expirenced that if I as a Dominant make a mistake or find it hard to Balance all the responsibility, only to expirience that a submissive redrawn from all responsibility and just pointing fingers.
This is extra frustrating for me as a Domiant , because I build my Domination upon devolping and therefor also offcourse and naturally accept failure.
Failure is not only something a submissive can expirience, YES we Dominant also have all the human-traits and as we all know, failure is a part of Learning before I do it right.

The Feelings

When starting out in D/s, there are many things, situations and activities that are discussed.  Talking can only take you so far.  For so many aspects of D/s, you really can’t get a grasp of it totally until you have actually experienced it.  The feelings involved are definitely one of those aspects. I can discuss this With my submissive, about how intense feelings can become.  About how intense being together in this manor can be.  About how when things perfectly line up, and you find the “one” for you, how intense the feelings for each other can be.  Until they begin to actually experience it, and get away from just talking about it, it is very hard for a submissive to really comprehend how it will be.
Some may have never been in a position to have feelings like this before.  They may have never allowed themselves to be open enough to feel like this before.  Maybe they have wanted it, but they have never found the right person to be able to give them what they really need, enabling them to open up and feel like this.  Whatever the case, once it happens, it is hard to prepare for it before you begin to have these intense feelings for your partner.  It can catch many people off guard.  In reality, it can be so different than anything they have felt before, that what they are feeling and experiencing in their mind scares the hell out of them.  They are afraid of what they are feeling and want to run and hide.  There is a sense of being too vulnerable.  There is a sense of being too exposed.  There is a sense of nothing good can come of this, and that the only possible ending to it is being hurt.  Most of the time this is because of past experience with a partner, or not having been through this before, and feeling so open that they just can’t deal with it.

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This is where trust and open communication become so vitally important.  It is a must to be able to talk this through with your partner.  I feel I have to show my sub that it is ok to feel this way. It is natural for these feelings to develop.  Most importantly, that I am in no way here to hurt you or cause you any psychological or emotional damage.  Trust is developed over time.  A person can’t demand it.  It is over time that you will see that my actions back up my words.  That I am here to care for you, protect you, and guide you to what is best for you.  It serves me no purpose to take you down a road of destruction.  I am here to show you the way to new and better things.  I am here to show you how great this can be.  I am here to help you see and feel things in a way you never thought you could, or even knew you could.

Most people that are afraid of what they are feeling do so because it is new, and they don’t understand it.  Yet, deep down they do like what they are feeling and know that it is something very special.  A door has been opened for them to a whole new world.  A world that maybe they have been searching for their entire lives.  We all get in our comfort zone, and can be afraid to step out of it.  But, only in stepping out of it and into new territory can we grow and progress.  If you stand still, you can’t move forward…you become static…and you will never go anywhere other than where you are right now.  Is that what you really want?  Is that what you really want to settle for being?  I don’t think so!  I think a sub wants to be able to step through that door and have what is waiting on the other side.  With some care, love and reassurance, she can see how great things can be.  That her fears may have been a bit over-thought.

It is hard to try and to look for something that may not exist, which would cause anyone to lose hope.  But when you do find it…when you find that special person and those special feelings…even if it is scary, aren’t you glad you have a guiding hand to hold onto to show you the way.  A hand that will protect you the best it can and be there for you.  One that wants nothing but to make this adventure the best it can be.  You may be frightened…scared…afraid…or even terrified.  I think the only thing worse than that is the thought of giving it up when it’s everything you have ever wanted.  Finding what you have always wanted and needed, only to give up and walk away because it seems scary to you?  To me that is more frightening than facing the feelings, accepting them, and taking a chance on a wonderful and beautiful relationship.

Don’t be afraid!  Here is my hand. Take it in yours!  Hold onto me and together we can face this journey.  Together we can make it everything we have ever wanted.  All you have to do is let me show you the way.  Let me show you that your trust in me is worth every once you have.  I won’t let you down!

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The Strenght

Appearances aren’t always as they appear. Those of us involved in this lifestyle know there is much more to it than what someone may see . This goes much deeper than the mere physical appearances of the activities we choose to bring into our relationships…much deeper. For all of us, always remember…”Relationships are much deeper and more involved than they appear”.

I think those people that peek in from the outside see a submissive as being weak. They see a woman being owned and controlled by a man (reverse the gender roles if you like), and view this as a weakness. Many people don’t think a woman should bow and cede herself to a man…or to anyone for that matter. They think she should stand on her own two feet and be able to take care of herself. She should be assertive and able to take charge of any situation. I say this is a bunch of ignorance.

I say that it takes a very strong woman to be willing and able to submit.  The core person is still there and strong. She has to be strong to be able to not only comprehend her need for submission, but then be able to act upon that need. A woman must be strong mentally and emotionally to be able to give herself to someone the way a submissive woman does. There is no weakness in needing to give yourself to a Dominant. It is that deep inner strength that makes her a good submissive. Someone without that strength will have a very hard time opening up and baring herself completely. Not to mention, this strength is combined with raw determination to be able to stay the course and follow through with what she desires the most. We all know…it isn’t always easy.

Always stand strong, be proud of who you are, and don’t let anyone make you think less of yourself. Anyone that tries to bring you down is only afraid and insecure about themselves. They will belittle you and try to make you feel smaller about yourself in order to feel better about themselves. So, stand tall, smile, and be happy with nothing less than the person you are. This will enable you to become even stronger, more self-aware, and more secure with yourself. Being able to look inside and being happy with what you see is what matters most of all.

“You are stronger than you think, and I have shown you just how strong and important, and appreciated you are. Let your inner strength flow and don’t allow what anyone else says or does make you think any less of yourself. Let them look like a fool on their own with the less than desirable behavior they may exhibit. In the end, it will be they that will be seen as a lesser and weaker person. I am proud of you as a person…all that you are and can be. I am proud and honored to be able to call you mine.”

The Growth

I have been reading over 100s of  personal growth books in my life.Focusing on self-improvement has presented many opportunities in my life—and learning and knowledge allways is a winning formula.
But from reading and getting the knowledge you have to put the new knowledge in  order for things to change in your life, in order to get where you want to be, you have to grow into the person who is ready for that change. Personal development is vital to your success on a personal Level , but surely allso as a Domiant.
I have blogged alot about development in BDSM and now , my blog  is about the growth.

I am a believer that we need to grow to move forward. BDSM is all about growth.
The growth I as a Dominant and my submissive together achive.
We enter this way of life knowing little yet learn and expand as we go along. The journey typically starts with our kinks (which most likely will expand over time) before extending with the realization that BDSM offers the opportunity to live life at a higher level. What I mean by this is that true BDSM people will hold themselves to a higher standard than the rest of society ( I think). This only makes sense when you realize the depth and risk associated with true power exchange. A person who takes this from another needs to be responsible with that power. It is something that the average person does not have to deal with in his relationship. Here I as a  Dominant is fully in charge and needs to direct things. I cannot absolve myself of the leadership position.

To cover some of the basic areas that growth is required, I will start with mental. Under mental, I am referring to knowledge. What is I as a Dominant doing to expand my knowledge base in all areas? Am I sitting around watching television all day long or does I at least pick up a book once in a while? Does I visit different websites to learn about different things? Are there hobbies I engages upon which expand my knowledge base and skills? Am I  studying for something that will improve my future, and through that, also improve my submissives future? And finally, doesI make it this way of life and his Domination a personal study? Too many seem to think, as I mentioned earlier in my blog that someone is born Dominant and, that having the quality of domination is enough. Few realize that to truly Dominant, one needs to make it a lifelong study.
I read somewhere that the blind never can lead the deaf…and this is so true if a Dominant never spend any time in expanding the knowledge, I think it is only Wannabe Dominants who lean to fact that they are born Dominant and therefor have the skill to lead a submissive.
This is not true, this is actually “Dangerous” for a submissive to lean towards , because it is all a house of cards.

With no knowledge, you can never lead ! 

Another area where growth is required is in regard to ones skills. Focusing upon BDSM solely, for a moment, I will state that any Dominant who is not expanding his abilities is going to lose those the submissive that are under his control. A submissive need to grow also and that comes, in part, by his ability to push her further. Naturally, I need to have the ability in a particular area before I can push her. Sadly, I belive a great many BDSM relationship end simply because the submissive outgrew the Dominant. The submissive progressed while he sat back and felt it his place to be waited upon. He deferred to her on all the effort while giving none himself. Well, I have news for you, this is not a choice. As a  Dominant, it is my responsibility to expand and grow because my submissive is (or will) be dependent upon that. Again, this is not a choice.
In many ways in a BDSM realtionship I as a Dominant is in charge allso for my submissive to grow, and never stop her from getting information seeking verious sites and reading blogs.
Because I am a beliver that growth is constant and a good BDSM relationship and a real Dominant spend alot of time growing and expanding this will lead to my submissive will devlop on the same path as mine.

The Keys

Everyone in the lifestyle does things differently.
I respect what ever that makes you happy in any relationship.
But the BDSM relationship is just a little bit more of the extras.
As a Dominant I need a lot of differnt keys to make a D/s relationship work.
Let me give you some keys that I feel is important.
Responsibility — I bear the responsibility in almost every aspect of the relationship. Why? Because I am in control of it. When it comes down to it, I am the one who is ultimately responsible for what happens to my submissive, my house, my job, myself — anything that is under my control including my actions and reactions.

Example: Your submissive is acting up. Is she responsible? Yes, but ultimately the reason why she is acting up is my responsibility. Maybe I have not being consistent enough and it is throwing her out of balance. Maybe the relationship needs maintenance. Most submissive do not want to act up. Most submissive are not even aware they are, but most submissive do act up because the world I created for her was thrown out of balance this is just one example of making me ultimately responsible for her behavior.

Maintenance — is crucial in any relationship, but in a BDSM relationships – it is vital. It’s no different than never changing the oil in your car and expect your car to drive forever. There are little tweaks and adjustments that need to happen over time to keep the car running. The same thing can be held true in a lifestyle relationship. But what is maintenance? It could be just the basics: take her for a date, do something new and excating together, find new ways to bound, find new ways to play and make her Connect even stronger to me a her Dominant. It is about taking control of the relationship and making sure all of the needs and support is met. not by Words , but actually doing the maintenance.

Follow Up — A product can only be as good as the person putting it together. This is a old saying , but clearly applies here because I am ultimately responsible if a submissive or  does not perform correctly. Instead of beating her ass, making her feel like she can’t do anything right why not show her what she is done wrong, show her what she’s supposed to do, and then follow-up with what happened? That is administering positive discipline. It’s positive because it positive reinforces how I want my submissive to act, respond, and behave — yet it fosters the strong structure and foundation that is a prerequisite for a healthy relationship.

This is just a few examples of keys that I mean is important keys to hold.
But there is no need for any keys if there isn`t a door and a lock, because locks need keys. There is no need to beat a door when you have a key that works on the door.
There is no point of getting upset when the door doesn’t open; there is no need to break down the door because it wouldn’t open. It is not the door’s fault. It is not the lock’s fault. And sometimes, it is not even the key’s fault. But if a key doesn’t work then we need to try a different key to open the door on our submissives.
Banging the door, breaking it in half, ripping it from the doorframe only serves to scare the submissive. My response to the door makes them question their approach, question what they are doing, making a seemingly stable environment — become unstable. I have my keys,  I respect them,  I know them, and I am cognizant when they fail, when they are in need of repair, or when they work well. Breaking a key inside of a lock causes more grief and exasperation.
And the beauty of it all:

I hold the keys to the success or failure of my relationship

 

 

 

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The Expectations

I have responsibilities and I also seek responsibilities
I have the responsibility to develop , learn and understand my submissive.
I have the responsibility to be strong and independent. I have the responsibility to be wise and patient, and to be controlled and in control of ourselves and my submissive.

I have to accept accountability for whatever happens with my submissive.
I have the responsibility to take responsibility (and accountability) for both our actions, and my submissives’ actions.
Well, submissive responsibilities exist too. (No, not “suck my dick daily” kinds of responsibilities).Responsibilities in submission are supposed to include communication with me as a Dominant. Having patience with the relationship. Working to build trust with me. And having realistic expectations of the relationship, while understanding the meaning of discretion when things need work. You know…all the stuff below?

Remember Patience
Patience is a virtue, virtue is a grace, and grace is importent.
When you start dating someone – you don’t ask them to marry you the first week out. Nor the first month, or (hopefully) the first year. So why are you in a rush to be “collared” immediately? Why is there this pressure to invent a myriad variety of “collars” to validate every single status change in the relationship? Date. Hang out. Talk.
Communicate on fantasies and find the common  fetishes and kinks.
It takes time before a Dominant becomes YOUR Master. It takes time for me to learn your way, It takes experience to recognize your body language, it takes time to understand how my submissive is thinking.

Have Realistic Expectations
You aren’t perfect? Well, neither am I. I seek to learn every day. I am constantly working on those imperfections, through self-help, personal exploration, educational classes, and reading.
It takes a lot of work to build a relationship – and that relationship has to be built from both ends. I understand that you are giving a lot when you surrender your body, soul and mind to me as a Dominant , I respect off course this highly.
BDSM is beautiful , some of the Pictures and the stories are just Perfect……..But this is not everyday life.
A BDSM relationship in the Movies or books are fiction.
An fantasies of a Superman/Batman Dominant are also fiction, a true Dominant has strenghts and weeknesses.

Consistency
I do the best I can to enforce the rules and follow thru consistently.
There’s something to be said for a sub who is the same Level in her level of devotion, her level of commitment, and her level of caring. I motivate, I train, and I guide. But if you’re giving us a different persona and a different level of submission every other day… will make the relationship very hard, and will be hard for me as a Dominant also to be conscientious.
Off course there is no such thing as a calm seas at all times in any relationships, but thats something totally differnt then consistently.

Trust
A
ctual trust, not “earn it or else” trust
Nobody trust  immediately from word one. That would be insane.
You’ve heard the old adage “trust takes time”? Well, trust also takes effort. And communication , from both parties. Trust is always a two way street.
As a Dominant I cherish trust, but trust is always about giving and reciving.
Trust is never a Dominant only responsibility, my submissive has to win my trust.

Sanity
This is a no brainer. But unfortunately, it rarely gets spoken of in our lifestyle.
We all have our issues and I can give much to my submissive but im not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but I respect that we all can have expirences in Our lives that can be hard to cope With and life is brutally hard sometimes. Entering deeply emotional and effort-related relationships demands that both parties are open and honest about who we are, where we stand and whats Our story.

Stop Recycling the Past
Expirience Counts, and hell ya its the defeats and how we turned defeat to expirience that makes us who we are.
But that said…this is us, starting fresh.This is a new relationship and maybe you as a submissive is New to the BDSM relationship.
I have met a lot of submissives over time, each one of them have taught me a lesson.
But im not in a search to copy my past, I want to create the New beginning, this should off course be the same for my submissive.

Honest Effort and Understanding
You might want us to know how hard submission is? Well, I want you to know how hard Domination is.I say there is a deep dimensions in the emotional and psychological impact.
For both me and my submissive, this could be hard and tough at times…..
I demand therfor a honest effort and understanding for the responsibillity I cary.
As like I respect my submissives effort in learing and developing.

Communication
Domination AND submission. Master AND slave. Top AND bottom. You AND me, Please note the “and”  It means that just as much as you expect me as a  Dominant to communicate with you about your training and performance…I expect the same of you.
This is what I Call the circle of BDSM realationship.
If you can’t communicate to me as a Domiant this would be like the blind leading the deaf.
I have a lot of skills, but since im not Batman or Superman, I do not have the gift to read Your toughts…
The better you as a submissive communicate, the better Dominant I will be.

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