The boundaries

A Dominant/slave relationship isn’t something that can be described as static. While your partner may not change for years at a time, that doesn’t mean the level of your relationship has to stay the same. In fact, as you and your slave work together, it’s a good idea to push each other’s boundaries to see just how deep you can take the relationship and the power structure. As a Dominant, you want to spend some time working on pushing the boundaries of your slave in order to ensure they are continuously learning and growing in their role.
What are the Boundaries in Your Relationship?

Before you can begin pushing your slave, you need to sit down with them and talk about what the contract between you already states. This will help you both to see what you think are the boundaries, whether they need to be changed, etc. Ideally, your slave should create a list of things they want, a list of things they never want, and a list of things they eventually want to try. The things they eventually want to try is the list that will help you see what boundaries you want to push. Since the slave is not necessarily comfortable with these items right now, you will be pushing their edges and making them grow in their role as a slave. Using other commands you might use for other tasks, you can see how they perform when they aren’t sure what’s going to happen next

A New System of Dominance

Pushing boundaries can lead to a completely new system of dominance as well. For example, instead of being the domineering Dominant that barks orders, you might want to try being calmer and just more steady in the way you deliver tasks to your slave. While this might not seem like a way to push someone’s boundaries, if you change the way you act with your slave, they will not necessarily know what you are up to – which can make them more on edge than they have been in a while.
Or you might simply want to change the way you interact with your slave in a scene. You might ask for your slave’s trust as you push boundaries as you see fit, allowing them the chance to tell you to slow down or to stop if things get out of hand.
You want to push the boundaries of your slave because that’s the best way to see just how hard they can work and how much they can learn. No one wants to learn the same things again and again, so you need to make sure there’s always something new around the corner.

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The Threesome

There might not be a more stigma to the Dominant male then the dream of a FFM threesome. Also many Dominants feel more in Powered when a singel man “rules” over two women.
I also blame the porn industry ( as I love) to build around the fantasy of a singel Man in Control over 2 women….
The FFM is obviously male-centric. If there’s any dick action going on, you know whose it’s going to be. There is one object of worship: the singular penis in the room.  Sounds great, no?

In the MMF case, it’s the other way around: the woman is now the commodity which is in short supply. She is the object to be worshipped and attended to, totally unique in her abilities and characteristics.
This also will build on my Dominant sides…Im in total Control over her beeing worshipped

Like most human beings, I like to be worshiped.  It makes you feel special, right?  What’s not to like.  The thing is, that’s not the BIGGEST turn on for me.  What really gets me going is the EFFECT I have on my submissive.  I want to contol her in evry situation, let me see that im also in contol even if there is a another man present, giving her proof of my dominance and  strength taking total control of her body, giving her away and let another Man use her as I please.
THAT’S the good stuff… When she’s so turned on she can’t see straight or form coherent sentences.
When she knows I as her Dominant always are in Control.
Total Control over her body and mind.
I as her Dominant are in charge over who I choose  that can fuck her and use her as I please,

For the same reason, the idea of double-teaming my submissive has an incredibly naughty allure. This is the higest form of telling her that her body is mine and I choose who can enjoy her at my comand.
I believe it’s actually MORE proof of real Dominant then the “ordinary” FFM threesome.

 

FFM threesome?  Fun, for sure.  Exciting too!

MMF threesome?  Now that’s a thing which promises to unleash the immense latent of real Dominanse and letting my submissive relase her female sexual power and capacity that must otherwise be kept deep and held secret for fear of pejorative judgments and social stigma.
By turning the table I as a Dominant also get the benifit of a submissive who really knows that her body is mine.

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Did you ask about jealosy ?

I can never be jealous on something that is mine and I Own ! 

 

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